Why Doesn't the Law of Attraction and Abundance Work for Everyone?

​Why Doesn’t the Law of Attraction and Abundance Work for Everyone?
by Debi Livingston, BCH, BI -- Education Director, Maine Chapter of NGH

This is a valid question that often goes unanswered. In a nutshell, the Law of Attraction IS
always working, it’s simply the individual(s) are attracting all things negative based on their
thinking.
     I was working with a client with my Abundant Living ProgramTM. On our first day together I
asked her what she wanted. "World peace," she replied. OK, I said, but I don’t think you’ll get
that in the time we have together, can you think of something else? She thought for a bit then
said, "I’m always praying to keep my children and grandchildren safe and healthy." Well, that’s
nice, too, and I’m sure your kids appreciate your prayers, but what do YOU want for yourself?
She was stumped. And then she started to cry. Then she told me that she’s never been able to
ask for anything personal and when she prays, it’s always for other people.
     I asked her what she felt emotionally when she thought of praying for herself. Guilt.
     I asked her what she felt emotionally when she wanted to manifest something for herself. Guilt
and unworthiness. Her truth; she’s never believed it was okay to want something just for her.
And that’s why she was working with me, to break the cycle of lack and limitation so she could
manifest abundance in her life.
     Wanting something and believing you can have something are two different things. I discovered
this when I first started my journey with manifestation and the Mind Sciences in 1981. I was in
a class learning how to "mock-up" or manifest things in life. The techniques and concepts were
simple and made perfect sense to me. I was excited that soon I’d have all the things I wanted to
make my life more comfortable. I started with easy things like a free cup of coffee. Lo and
behold, a few days after practicing the exercise, I was invited out for a cup of coffee. I knew I
was onto something now!
     At the time my only mode of transportation was a ten-speed bike. The rainy season was
drawing near so I sat down one day and mocked-up a new car. I was seeing the car, imagining I
was driving the car, looking forward to receiving my new car. I just wasn’t paying attention to
the small voice inside of me saying "no way, you can’t have this for free," which created a
feeling of doubt I was ignoring. What could go wrong? I was applying the information exactly
as I had been taught.
     The next time class met everyone was sharing their experiences. A student was all excited
because she had been given a new car. A car much nicer than the one she already had. A car that
was very similar to the car I had mocked-up for myself. I didn’t get a car, but she did. I actually
burst into tears and blurted out "you got my car and you don’t even need one!" Our teacher used
my experience as the object lesson for class that night.
     I discovered my subconscious mind was acting on a deep-rooted belief system of lack,
limitation, and no permission to increase or bring new things into my life. Not only did I
feel guilty if I asked for something for myself, I didn’t believe I could have things that easily. I
had to work hard for whatever I received.
     This was a two-fold imprint in my subconscious mind. One aspect was the thoughts and
feelings I was carrying deep within me that stemmed from my childhood and the conversations
I heard my parents talking/fighting about over money; money doesn’t grow on trees, only
certain people get ahead in life. . . . you get the idea.
     The other aspect was based in religion. It wasn’t spiritual to want things. Don’t be greedy.
Don’t be selfish. Always think of the other person first. To be spiritual meant you shouldn’t
have money or nice things. Has anyone reading this article ever experienced something similar?
What about you as a hypnotist? Do you have a difficult time creating a picture for what you
want to experience in your business? Do you feel guilty if you ask for something or pray for
yourself and not others? Do you say you want certain things but deep down don’t believe you
can have them? This can be anything: health, finances, relationships, or a successful hypnosis
business.
     As hypnotists, I believe it’s important we live what we teach. I had to learn how to expand my
Container of Consciousness to accept the abundance I rightly deserve. If you’re struggling with
Imposter Syndrome or feel "guilty" for raising your rates, find another hypnotist who can help
you clean out those imprints of lack, limitation, and struggle. Your business will prosper and you
will be better equipped to help your clients!
     Peace and blessings to all who read this article.